Join us for a very chill, informal discussion of Kai Cheng Thom’s magical book I Hope We Choose Love. Come regardless of how much you’ve read, as we’ll read out passages together so that everyone can follow along.

This event is part of the Softcore Trauma Community Discord, which you can join starting at $1/month. Sign up here.

making a dating profile can be so overwhelming. we spend hours and hours wondering how do i even talk about myself?? who am i??? what the eff am i looking for?? before shutting down and giving up on dating forever.

while i’m not a relationship coach or dating expert, dating profiles are one of my big special interests, and i’ve spent A LOT of time thinking about what separates the good from the bad, how to make a dating profiles that attracts the other weirdos you’re seeking, and how to push back against all of the cishet scripts that tell you to not be “too direct” or “too intense,” unless you wanna scare everyone off.

bring your arts and/or crafts project, or print out the collage kit shared in the "craft and cry" channel. we'll spend the first 90 mins or so crafting quietly to music and then the last 30 mins participants will have an opportunity to share what they worked on and the last time they cried. this brilliant idea comes form the la-based event collage and cry.

this month's live q&a will feature our guest jezz chung. jezz is a multidisciplinary artist, author of the book this way to change here and they host the podcast dreaming different. jezz's work explores the intersection of personal and collective change. their neurodivergent, queer, korean american experiences shape their approach to art making.