Chaotic Love - and other essays on intimacy
Digital version can be found here.
This zine is a love letter to those with disorganized attachment. The first essay, “Chaotic Love,” comes directly from my book manuscript. In the longest essay in this collection, I describe how I came to be someone with disorganized attachment, and I share some vulnerable moments of Femme4Femme intimacy (from hook ups to my relationship with my best friends) that have healed me and my attachment wounds.
In “Queer Romance,” I look at the ways in which romance as we understand it has been built on traditional cishetmononormative tropes and insecure attachment, proposing a queer form of romance in its place.
In the third piece of writing, “Notes on Loving Someone With a Dissociative Disorder,” I write to those who want to love me but don’t know how, breaking down the ways in which disorganized attachment and its accompanying dissociation can make it challenging, but in no way impossible, for me to foster intimacy.
And finally, in “Learning to Trust in Uncertainty,” I share my own process of learning to be with one of the most triggering things for folks with disorganized attachment: uncertainty.
Product Details:
Printed on A5
50 pages of writing
4 essays
All of my offerings work on a sliding scale, with no questions asked. If you’re not sure where you’d fall, here’s a guide:
$12: For those for whom purchasing wouldn’t be possible without this option
$17: For those who would need to consult their budget before purchasing
$22: For those for who can make the purchase without batting an eyelash
Given that the majority of customers are based outside of Canada, the prices are in USD. If you live in Canada and the exchange rate is an access barrier, please reach out to jaime@margeauxfeldman.com for a discount code
If you want to learn more about disorganized attachment, please check out my webinar: “Chaotic Love: A Webinar for Folks with Disorganized Attachment and Those Who Love Them”
